“I can’t live with him, but I can’t seem to live without him either,” her letter said. She added that she had moved out of their house three times, but still kept coming back. With minor variations, her story could be repeated thousands of times every day.
Each marriage is different, and we mustn’t oversimplify or overlook the uniqueness of every relationship. But what is the problem? Why can’t spouses seem to get along?
Let me answer by asking another question: What is the opposite of love?
It isn’t hate (although it may take that form). The opposite of love is selfishness. When a husband and wife are concerned only about their own individual desires, the stage is set for conflict.
The Holy Book gives us another way—the way of Christ. True love, it says, is self-giving, not self-seeking. True love puts the needs of others first. This is what He did when He left Heaven’s glory and came down to earth for us. Begin a new page in your marriage by asking Him to become the center of your life—and your marriage.
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Source : https://www.faithgateway.com/true-love-puts-others-first/#.YTRSkI4zbIU